Have a crush on someone who doesn’t like you back? It’s not the end of the world. It’s going to be tough for a while, sure, but time eventually heals all wounds. Check out this article for a few tips on how to speed up the process.
Falling in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way can be devastating. Rejection happens to the best of us, and it shakes our confidence every time. It doesn’t matter if you only flirted a little, hooked up a few times, or never even hung out. Not all love stories are meant to become epic novels. Some are short stories; but that doesn’t mean that they are any less significant or easier to leave behind.
The more you pine after somebody, though, the tougher it will be to get over him. Here are a few tips that will help with this whole daunting process.
In our current society it has become unnatural to feel down. We have access to plenty of motivational articles online that teach us how to be positive and smile more, and we can even hire a lifestyle coach to keep us motivated and cheerful. However, it’s perfectly OK to allow yourself to feel sad every once in a while – and realizing that your crush doesn’t feel the same is one of those times. Being sad is a part of life, not to mention that a good cry can do you more good than wearing a fake smile all day long. Acknowledge your feelings instead of burying them somewhere deep inside.
Accept the Situation
The first step to get over your crush is the hardest: you need to accept that nothing will happen between you two. It’s difficult; after all, you’ve invested a lot in your fictional relationship and didn’t get anything in return. However, it’s mandatory if you’re looking to move on. Stop overanalyzing ever conversation you two ever had or every short text message he sent you. Boys are pretty simple creatures: if he likes you, he’ll let you know. If he doesn’t, he’s just not that into you. And it’s time to let go and look for someone who is.
Rely On Your Friends
Friends can provide an impressive amount of support during these tough times. First off, they’ll be there to hold your hand and listen to you whine and talk about how perfect his hair was for the eleventh time. Knowing that there’s someone there for you can be extremely comforting. Next, they’ll take you out even when you won’t feel like it. You do have to exit your house at some point. Go drinking, have a girls’ night out, go to a fancy new restaurant, dance the night away. Besides keeping your mind off the guy that broke your heart, you’ll also make some memories worth reminiscing about in the future.
Knock Him Down His Pedestal
Sure, he’s still cute, funny, charming. When you fall in love though, you tend to only see the good in the other person. Give yourself a reality check and make a list of his flaws. Maybe he’s rude at times, makes offensive jokes, can be pretty selfish. If you feel like you can’t be objective, ask a friend for help. Whenever you feel like he’s the most perfect guy in the entire universe, take a look at your list.
Cutting off all contact with your crush will definitely speed up the process of getting over him. Delete his number, unfollow him from social media sites, avoid the places he usually likes to hang out. You know how the saying goes – out of sight, out of mind. It doesn’t work instantly, and you’re likely going to miss him like hell. However, no one said this is going to be easy. Now’s the time to toughen up.
Focus On Something Else
The more you keep your mind busy with other things, the less time you’ll have to pine after your crush. Focus on something more productive. Put in more hours at work to advance your career, volunteer for an organization, find a new hobby. Or, you can relax and devote all your spare time to more pleasant activities you overlooked during these last months. Maybe you should start watching that TV show everyone’s talking about or get through that stack of funny romance novels gathering dust on your nightstand. Whatever works.
The idea of going out with someone else may not seem particularly appealing at the moment, we get that. But it gives you the opportunity to feel wanted and appreciated again; and this can be a real confidence booster. Plus, there’s something nice about picking a cute outfit and having a pleasant conversation with someone for a couple of hours, even if no feelings are involved. Get on a dating site or ask a friend to set you up. Don’t spend all your Saturday nights curled up in bed with a bottle of wine and a romcom.
Unrequited love sucks big time. Give it time. Let go of your negative feelings and focus on taking care of yourself. Your crush will eventually become just somebody that you used to know